A new member of the family can be a major upheaval, not only for parents but also for older siblings. It can be a frightening and confusing time for your child when they find out a new baby is on the way. While a new brother or sister is a wonderful gift to give your child, it may take time before they realise this.
It is normal that older children feel jealousy and in some cases will even act aggressively towards parents, the new baby or even to your growing tummy before baby is born. Children have difficulty expressing their fears and emotions and this can result in them making harsh statements, such as "I do not want a brother, I want him to die". Keep in mind that your little one never literally means what it says at that moment. They are simply trying to defend their place within the family. Obviously, while these outbursts are difficult for parents to hear, you should realise this is just a reaction to this new situation your child finds itself in and should not be taken literally.
Pregnant women also sometimes wonder if they will love their next child as much as they love the others. These are also normal feelings that many pregnant women experience. Deep inside, they know that they will love both children equally. Love for children does not get divided, but time does.
The best thing to do is ensure your children are involved in the pregnancy from the beginning. While it is difficult to prepare them for something which is not here yet, there are simple steps you can take to prepare your child for the new arrival. Follow their direction, answer their questions and make them feel part of the experience.
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