I'm surprised that nobody has commented here yet! I am 35 years old, married since Feb this year. I had a well-meaning friend ask when I was going to start trying for kids, because "geriatric pregnancies are high risk you know". Thanks. I had two issues with this question. Firstly, how do you know that we hadn't already? As far as you were aware, we could have been trying for years, one of us might be suffering from infertility issues. You don't know! as it was, we had been trying for three months at that point, and I was getting increasingly discouraged, thinking maybe we'd never have them. Her 'well-meaning' comment didn't help. My other glaring issue was being called geriatric. I'm 35, not 80. Sure, I'm in the older bracket, and any pregnancy I have will be high risk, but that doesn't make it impossible. It just means I'll have to have more frequent checks, I'm ok with that. I actually had a positive pregnancy two months ago, unfortunately, I lost it very early. That makes the grief no less, it did press home what my friend had said a little harder though, and I felt myself thinking that maybe she was right, maybe I was too old? Luckily, I have a very supportive husband and wonderful friends and parents who helped me through that time. If you're on this topic, I assume you are in a similar boat. I can tell you that right now, I'm just back from the doctor where I've had another positive pregnancy test and am waiting on tenterhooks for the confirmation of the blood results (fingers crossed for tomorrow). So there you have it, I'm high risk, but I'm not old! I just need more attention. Have you been told that you're too old?

I'm not old!

I can't hear haters

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  • Zv

    Few days ago I became 40. My husband and I are trying for our 3rd child. I had a misscariage last year and a chemical pregnancy 4 months ago. When last year I went to my first appointment , a young doctor asked us if we wanted this pregnancy and that many others in our case wouldn't.. I never stept there again, of course. I don't think that it is late for us. I beleive that we just need more attention- medical mostly. It turned that I had some blood issue that I didn't even thought about, and which is the possible reason for the lost of the pregnancy, and also anemia and lack of vitamins B and D. I had a therapy and now we are ready to start again, hoping this time for the best. If you want it, it is not late, even after 40, so there is no reason to let some people discourage you...

  • Richie

    My fiancee and myself are in our 40s and I am just having my first ( I'm the male just incase your wondering) this will be my fiancée's 5th birth. We lost a baby at 3mths. We have been together for just over a year and this is the 2nd time in that time she has become pregnant. We have a healthy baby boy growing but the strange thing is the 2 different dates we get from this site. But back to the topic of too old... My mother had another son 20years after I was born, she was 40 then and now 60. I'm 41 this year.

  • Moxyligeia

    I’m 39 and pregnant with my third. I had my first two at 24 and 26. I was younger and fitter. But I also know that I’m strong now and my body can do this. It may be a bit harder at 39 but I’ve got support from my fiancé and love in my heart!

  • Sashab4u

    I’m glad you didn’t let this disencourage you. I started trying at the age of 28 and it was tough at first, it took a tearful 13 months to get pregnant. I’d like to tell you now that I’m 35 and I’ve recently discovered I’m pregnant with baby number 4!!! Everybody is different. You can be in your late 40s and have a healthy pregnancy.
    Oh and congratulations if you are pregnant xx hope it goes well for you


    I am 43 and currently pregnant

  • missemery

    35 is still very young

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